For most parents when a child is not compliant, he is considered disrespectful. The parent takes the behavior of the child personal and the goal is to make the child stop. In this scenario, the child’s world is not taken into account at all, the parent is not interested in what is going on with the child, the parent does not wonder why he is acting this way with true curiosity trying to find out what is the need the child is trying to meet. In the attempt of wanting the child to stop, the parent uses fear, manipulation, and control to get compliance.
This is the conditioning of the parent taking over of the situation, it happens unconsciously and it goes most times against the true intentions of the parent which is to love, support, understand, empower, teach and emotionally coach the child through hard times.
How do we start breaking free from beliefs and patterns passed down to us? Start by bringing awareness to your interactions with your child. Pay attention and realize what part you are playing in it. Be aware of any judgments coming up. Bring yourself to a state of calm before addressing the child. Remember your values. Act in alignment with who you truly are. Be the example.
-Isabel Stafford, Family Alchemist™
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