Pain, suffering, disconnection, fear, and dysfunction pass down from generation to generation until we wake up and decide to break the cycle. Before this realization, our reactions are the product of our preconditioned or unconscious mind; our emotional state is dominated by past experiences and limiting beliefs and we feel like we have no control over ourselves. It is typical to believe that others are to blame for our emotional state and that they are the ones that need to change so we can be calm and mature. The way we act towards others depends a lot on how people acted towards us at some point in our life, we just repeat what was done to us. We judge, shame, and reject others because that’s what we learned.
How do we break the cycle? With awareness. The aha moments to the realization that we inherited the pain of people before us comes many times from moments of great suffering and when we start questioning our relationships and wondering about the part we have been playing we are on the path of awakening. When you are capable of self-reflection, you have awakened, when you decide to heal your broken parts, you have healed all your future generations, when you decide to feel your pain instead of passing it down you are changing the world. You are able to start acting from your heart instead of your pain.
-Isabel Stafford, Family Alchemist™
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I support you with the hardest job of all, the raising of your precious children. I help you find joy, peace and ease dealing with your family challenges. I teach you to connect instead of divide by parenting through love. I work with parents who are committed to turning their family dynamic around, to bringing more peace to their homes and cooperation from their kids. In other words, I teach them how to stop yelling and punishing and how to parent through empathy and connection. Parents know when their approach is not working and when they reach out, I meet them right where they are, I offer them a judgment-free and confidential relationship, I guide them through their struggles, celebrate their successes and support them in their setbacks. After working with me you will feel confident about the best way to raise your children, you will feel a sense of peace and regain your joy knowing that every member of your family feels loved and valued, they are heard and they matter. You will be the parent you always wanted to be in the midst of any circumstance. I am a mother of three boys and I went from being the perfect parent in my fantasies to a “monster mom” in reality and in a matter of a couple of years after I had my first child. My world crumbled. It was chaos. And then I went to being a confident mom that gained her joy back thanks to a deep dive into conscious parenting, a long journey of inner work still to this moment and staying committed to being true to myself.
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