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Hi Friends, When I created The Family Alchemists in 2018, I had a really big vision and mission of connecting people to the resources they need to grow. I have so many amazing professionals in the Conscious Parenting space as friends and was determined to help them...

How Recovery Principles Pave the Way to Conscious Parenting

Applying the 12 steps to my parenting helped me practice boundaries, communicate with integrity and ultimately BE loving and tolerant.

Conscious Communication Skills

In times of great social change, we look for the things we can control. We may not be able to predict the future for ourselves or our teens, but we can control how we communicate. The way we communicate reveals what we value and how we value it. I longed to connect...

How to Save a Marriage

So, you’re an empath married to a guy that treats you like a queen – most of the time. But those times he’s angry? You question if you’re more like your mother than you thought. You worry that his behavior is going to hurt your kids and that you’re being irresponsible...

WHAT DOES SPIRITUALITY MEAN TO YOU?

When I have a chance to actually discuss the topic with clients, it is very simple to explain my view of spirituality, understand my clients’ perspective, and come to a common ground semantically (and often philosophically). I notice I regularly attract people who...

Helping Your Kids During Coronavirus Social Distancing

Dear Brave Ones: Of course, we’re scared. That means it’s the time to be gentle and compassionate with ourselves and others. Can you imagine how scared our kids are? Their routines have been disrupted and they miss their teachers and friends. They have less control...

Out of the race

From the moment we are born, we are part of a race we never wanted to be in, we are measured by milestones and compared endlessly with any peers we share our life with. We are numbers in charts and checkmarks in lists of accomplishments, in other words, we are what we...

Mindful Parenting Through the Everyday Stresses

In the fast paced world of parenting where decisions are made in between spilled cereal, constant questioning and smartphone apps, it is no wonder the word mindfulness is becoming as necessary in a parent’s vocabulary as the word nap-time. And yet, for many,...

What our children ask of us

Our children ask so little really. Listen to my discoveries and ideas. Look through my eyes to understand my world. Feel my love, joy, frustration, pain. Hold my hand, my heart and me close. Be careful with me and understand me. I may feel off sometimes, when the...

Elf on the shelf, Magic of well-behaved kids?

I was already familiar with conscious parenting when the Elf on the Shelf became popular a few years ago, I found out about it when my kids were toddlers and I heard stories about him moving every night and being a fun addition during Christmas time. I was excited to...

In the upcoming holiday hustle and bustle, it’s so easy to stress out and also stress our relationships. Let’s pause, breathe, center and reflect on our parenting purpose for a mindful holiday.

Psychology says the purpose of parenting is to provide a healthy bond for the child and thereby, become the foundation to launch into the world. Sociology says, the purpose of parenting is to socialize children to societal norms. Religious traditions may say the purpose of parenting is something else entirely. These perspectives are worthy.

Conscious Parenting

In conscious parenting, we must get honest with ourselves and admit, the purpose of our parenting may have been a bit narcissistic. We may have an underlying belief that our child came to fulfill some deep need of the own, as parents. We reveal it when we are embarrassed if our kids aren’t well-behaved, or if they don’t make good grades. When our kids are kind, we take it as a personal compliment. As they grow, we may have a desire for our kids to go into the “right career” or marry the “right person.”

Defining My Parenting Purpose

As I grew and changed in my own parenting journey, I saw my highest calling as a parent, was to support my child’s journey (not my journey through my child). Additionally, I came to believe that my role as a parent was to support more and guide less as THEY prepared for their future. They were growing into independent responsible, contributing adults.
I actually wrote down my parenting purpose and reviewed it regularly, especially in times of stress. Holding myself accountable to the parenting purpose that I defined, helped guide my communication with my kids. I reviewed it regularly and it helped me grow in the practice of compassion with them.

But I didn’t do it alone. I had a coach to remind me and help me stay true to the commitment I made to the parenting purpose I defined. It was such a positive process for me, that I became a parent coach.

Invitation

This holiday, if you haven’t already, take some time to define your parenting purpose. Reflect and meditate on it. It can truly become the foundation of every interaction for a mindful holiday and a transformative new year.

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