[Guide] What is Alchemical Experience, Anyway?

We use something called Alchemical Experience to match you with a coach, but what is it?

You’re unique. You have a variety of life experiences and probably no one has lived a life that is exactly like yours.

But there are several experiences that we all are likely to have in common.

How your parents disciplined you, for example. Or if you were bullied at school.

Each of these common experiences affects us in a somewhat predictable way.

This is why we’re passionate about child development and what our kids need, so we don’t create what we call “imbalances” in their sense of self. These imbalances just mean that instead of having an even flow of energy in and energy out, we tend to have too much energy in a certain area, or not enough.

We are able to look at each of these areas as they relate to a specific period in our development.

Achieving balance is what we’re all after. That is is personal growth, evolution, or consciousness– whatever you want to call it, this is the “work” that so many of us are after.

At The Family Alchemists, we don’t just match you to a parent coach based on your child or current situation. Because transformation that matters happens with you first, we look at your actual life experiences to match you to a coach who has had a similar history and has achieved balance, or what we call Alchemical Experience, in that specific area.

Alchemical Experience: Areas of personal triumph where transformation was both possible and achieved.

In other words, we match you to someone that has been in your shoes and has changed whatever it is you’re trying to change.

Alchemical Experience Areas [Click To Learn More]:

Trust (or a sense of security)
Emotional Body
Boundaries
Love & Connection
Communication
Intuition & Clear Sight
Wisdom & Spirituality

Those last two are the least likely to be dominant for any of us because they’re often over-developed and don’t affect us as negatively. Unless you grew up in a cult, it’s not likely that you’ll need to do much work in regards to Wisdom & Spirituality. In other words, you used your mind more to cope with life and have less balance in other areas because of this.

For example, you may have decided to stop feeling emotional pain and heartbreak and rationalized it away. Instead of connecting to others with empathy, maybe you use logic to evaluate their situations and offer them solutions.

There are no right or wrong answers in any of this. We all have unique blueprints and so many other conditions that affect who we are.

For the purposes of our matching system, though, this is the snapshot we use.

Here’s a breakdown of what balanced, excess, and deficient characteristics can look like for each area.

This is in part based on work by Anodea Judith in her book “Eastern Body, Western Mind.” You can also be both excessive and deficient! It may just depend on your current circumstances.

Achieving balance requires personal work (which is why you’re here!) and self-care.

Each of our parenting coaches can help you with your specific challenges, as well. They have varied specialties and training.

We feel that you’ll connect best with and be the most successful with someone on a similar wavelength.

But you be the judge! Reach out to your Family Alchemist™ to experience a free 30-minute coaching session, and then come back and let us know how we did!

Trust

Balanced Characteristics:	Excessive Characteristics:	Deficient Characteristics:
Good health, vitality, well-grounded, comfortable in body, sense of trust in the world, feeling of safety and security, ability to relax and be still, stability, prosperity, right livelihood	Heaviness, sluggish/lazy/tired, monotony/fear of change/addiction to security, obesity/overeating, hoarding, materialism, greed, rigid boundaries (uses bodyweight to feel protected and grounded)	Fearful/anxious, undisciplined, restless, underweight, spacey/poor focus and discipline, financial difficulty, poor boundaries, chronic disorganization, disconnection from the body

Emotional Body

Balanced Characteristics:	Excessive Characteristics:	Deficient Characteristics:
Graceful movement, emotional intelligence, ability to experience pleasure, nurturance of self and others, ability to change, healthy boundaries	Overly emotional, poor boundaries/invasion of others, sex addiction/acting out, obsessive attachments, pleasure addiction, excessively strong emotions (hysteria, bipolar mood swings, crisis junkies), oversensitive, seductive manipulation, emotional dependency, obsessive attachment	Frigid/fear of sex, impotent, rigid in body and attitudes, emotionally numb, fearful of pleasure, poor social skills, denial of pleasure, excessive boundaries, fear of change, lack of desire/passion/excitement

Boundaries

Balanced Characteristics:	Excessive Characteristics:	Deficient Characteristics:
Responsible, reliable, balanced, effective will, good self-esteem, balanced ego-strength, warmth in personality, confidence, spontaneity/playfulness/sense of humor, appropriate self-discipline, sense of one’s personal power, able to meet challenges	Dominating, controlling, aggressive, scattered, constantly active, need to be right/have last word, manipulative, power hungry, deceitful, attraction to sedatives, temper tantrums/violent outbursts, stubborn, driving ambition/type A, competitive, arrogant, hyperactive (bully)	Weak will/easily manipulated, poor self-esteem, passive, sluggish/low energy, fearful, cold emotionally and/or physically, poor digestion, collapsed middle, attraction to stimulants, victim mentality/blaming others, passive unreliable (avoids conflict)

Love & Connection

Balanced Characteristics:	Excessive Characteristics:	Deficient Characteristics:
Compassionate, loving, empathetic, self-loving, altruistic, peaceful/balanced, good immune system	Codependency, poor boundaries, possessive, jealous, demanding, clinging, overly sacrificing, empath	Shy, lonely, isolated, lack of empathy, bitter, critical/judgmental/intolerant of self or others, depression, fear of intimacy or relationships, narcissism, antisocial, cold, (socially withdrawn)

Communication

Balanced Characteristics:	Excessive Characteristics:	Deficient Characteristics:
Resonant voice, good listener, good sense of timing and rhythm, clear communication, lives creatively	Excessive talking, talking as a defense, inability to listen, gossiping, dominating voice/interruptions, stuttering (frightened person that talks constantly)	Fear of speaking, poor rhythm, aphasia, small/weak voice, difficulty putting feelings into words, introversion/shyness, tone-deaf

Intuition & Clear Sight

Balanced Characteristics:	Excessive Characteristics:	Deficient Characteristics:
Intuitive, perceptive, imaginative, good memory, good dream recall, able to think symbolically, able to visualize	Headaches, nightmares, hallucinations, delusions, difficulty concentrating, obsessions	Poor memory, poor vision, unimaginative, denial, insensitivity, difficulty seeing future, difficulty visualizing, poor dream recall, denial, only one right way

Wisdom & Spirituality

Balanced Characteristics:	Excessive Characteristics:	Deficient Characteristics:
Ability to perceive, analyze, and assimilate information, intelligent, thoughtful, aware, open-minded, able to question, spiritually connected, wisdom and mastery, broad understanding	Overly intellectual, spiritual addiction, confusion, dissociation from body	Learning difficulties, spiritual skepticism, limited beliefs, materialism, apathy, excess in lower chakras (materialism, greed, domination of others)

TLDR: Alchemical Experience is a fancy way of saying that you’ll be matched with a coach who’s most likely to have done what you’re trying to do — and started from a place very similar to where you are right now in your life.

Have you booked your 30-minute experience coaching call yet? Click here to find your Family Alchemist’s calendar and book today.

Beth Rowles

I help wise entrepreneurs & parents optimize their life or business so they can inspire & connect with others from a place of confidence.

I help people parent the way they feel called to, not what they were shown or are told to do, but what they know deep down is their truth.

I help people build businesses aligned to who they are and what they’re here to offer, not what they’re told they should be or what they think people want, but creating value from what they naturally, and passionately, have to offer that creates real transformation.

I help inspirational entrepreneurs find brand clarity before building beautiful websites & digital marketing for them that clearly express their own brand of awesome, so they can thrive by focusing their time on delighting the people they’re here to guide.

Until I found Conscious Parenting, I’d completely lost sight of ME. I had no idea what I wanted or needed. I used my marriage, which was on the brink of divorce, to uncage the real me and now we’re happier than ever. My growth inspired his, fortunately for our children.

I’m a Jai Parenting Institute Certified Parenting Coach, trained with Dr. Shefali Tsabary (author of The Conscious Parent) for over two years, and have multiple marketing & business certifications. Prior to this work, I was an RF Engineer for 14 years. I have two young children and live in Northeast Ohio with my husband and our boxer rescues.

Please visit my website, bethrowles.com to learn more about my services and pricing.