Before our kids are born we already have this “manual” about all the things we want our child to be and do. We have expectations and set ourselves up for disappointment, because we know that right after our kids are born they come to life to be themselves, which most likely won’t agree with this “manual” we had. Kids are here to follow their own path and unfold into who they already are.
How can we then prepare our child for their own path? The number one tool for a parent is PRESENCE. To be with the child physically, mentally and spiritually at a given moment.
How can we be present for our child? Getting rid of the “manual” and seeing the child in front of us. Connecting in the good moments but more important connecting in the not so good moments. Being there without conditions and judgments.
If you’re thinking that this sound impossible, I won’t disagree that it’s hard to do, but like with everything else it just takes practice. So, where do you start? Start where you are right now, Figure out how long you can be fully present with your child before you start worrying about dinner, bed time, or what he should be doing or how he should be doing it. 1 minute? 2? Maybe it’s zero. Start there and try making progress.
-Isabel Stafford, Family Alchemist™
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I support you with the hardest job of all, the raising of your precious children. I help you find joy, peace and ease dealing with your family challenges. I teach you to connect instead of divide by parenting through love. I work with parents who are committed to turning their family dynamic around, to bringing more peace to their homes and cooperation from their kids. In other words, I teach them how to stop yelling and punishing and how to parent through empathy and connection. Parents know when their approach is not working and when they reach out, I meet them right where they are, I offer them a judgment-free and confidential relationship, I guide them through their struggles, celebrate their successes and support them in their setbacks. After working with me you will feel confident about the best way to raise your children, you will feel a sense of peace and regain your joy knowing that every member of your family feels loved and valued, they are heard and they matter. You will be the parent you always wanted to be in the midst of any circumstance. I am a mother of three boys and I went from being the perfect parent in my fantasies to a “monster mom” in reality and in a matter of a couple of years after I had my first child. My world crumbled. It was chaos. And then I went to being a confident mom that gained her joy back thanks to a deep dive into conscious parenting, a long journey of inner work still to this moment and staying committed to being true to myself.