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Helping Your Kids During Coronavirus Social Distancing

Dear Brave Ones: Of course, we’re scared. That means it’s the time to be gentle and compassionate with ourselves and others. Can you imagine how scared our kids are? Their routines have been disrupted and they miss their teachers and friends. They have less control...

Out of the race

From the moment we are born, we are part of a race we never wanted to be in, we are measured by milestones and compared endlessly with any peers we share our life with. We are numbers in charts and checkmarks in lists of accomplishments, in other words, we are what we...

Mindful Parenting Through the Everyday Stresses

In the fast paced world of parenting where decisions are made in between spilled cereal, constant questioning and smartphone apps, it is no wonder the word mindfulness is becoming as necessary in a parent’s vocabulary as the word nap-time. And yet, for many,...

What our children ask of us

Our children ask so little really. Listen to my discoveries and ideas. Look through my eyes to understand my world. Feel my love, joy, frustration, pain. Hold my hand, my heart and me close. Be careful with me and understand me. I may feel off sometimes, when the...

Elf on the shelf, Magic of well-behaved kids?

I was already familiar with conscious parenting when the Elf on the Shelf became popular a few years ago, I found out about it when my kids were toddlers and I heard stories about him moving every night and being a fun addition during Christmas time. I was excited to...

A Course for Parenting Teens

My own conscious parenting journey led me to clearly see that every time I tried to control my teens, it didn’t work and isolated us from each other. Conversely, every time I shared my heart, including my fears without defense, we grew closer and solved problems...

Season of Love

We are so apt to forget that the motivation behind the holiday season is... Love. Love in all its forms, languages and expression. Love, engaging all senses, from smells in the kitchen to the sense of magic in the air. No matter what stress, busyness or even feeling...

Doing nothing is harder than you think

Tantrums and meltdowns are one of the hardest things to handle as parents, it brings all sorts of feelings, fears, insecurities and a high level of anxiety. The confusing part is to understand where this is coming from, most parents believe it comes from the child,...

Creating an Intentional New Year…

JOIN ME FOR THIS ONLINE EVENT. Do you ever feel like one year blends into another as time flies by? Does your New Years Resolution to be a more conscious and patient parent feel like a struggle? New Year Intentions are deeper than goals or resolutions as they use your...

Love is a circle

Love is a circle, and however wonderful the process of loving and appreciation is, and however uplifting and rejuvenating the process can be, the circle is completed when we remember that we too are loved. When we allow ourselves to receive the love that surrounds us,...

From the moment we are born, we are part of a race we never wanted to be in, we are measured by milestones and compared endlessly with any peers we share our life with. We are numbers in charts and checkmarks in lists of accomplishments, in other words, we are what we do. And for those of us who are the firstborn child, the pressure is even greater because we are the first example of our parent’s product.

There are many issues I see when parents want to raise copies of the collective ideal child. Children lose their own identity and start trading who they truly are for who they are told they have to be. Children lose the capacity to look within and follow their inner wisdom and they start relying on the external to live their life. Children grow with a sense of unworthiness and not being good enough because the ideal child is an unattainable goal. Children grow pretending to be someone they are not and this is basically living at war with themselves creating deep wounds that they have to heal later in their lives. Children grow into adults that are unable to maintain healthy relationships because they don’t live in alignment with who they truly are and their own values.

The question is, Is there another way to raise our children? Yes, OUT OF THE RACE

As conscious parents, we start with the concept that every human being is unique and this really helps us to get curious about who our children are and it helps us to honor their being by allowing them to unfold into who they truly are. This principle also helps us understand that if every child is unique, then there is no race they need to be in.

For us, adults raised to win the race, part of the inner work and healing of childhood wounds is understanding that we need to step out of the race and create our own lane.

-Isabel Stafford, Family Alchemist™

#isabelstafford #outoftherace #authenticity #weareunique #winninginlife

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