Updates on The Family Alchemists

Hi Friends, When I created The Family Alchemists in 2018, I had a really big vision and mission of connecting people to the resources they need to grow. I have so many amazing professionals in the Conscious Parenting space as friends and was determined to help them...

How Recovery Principles Pave the Way to Conscious Parenting

Applying the 12 steps to my parenting helped me practice boundaries, communicate with integrity and ultimately BE loving and tolerant.

Conscious Communication Skills

In times of great social change, we look for the things we can control. We may not be able to predict the future for ourselves or our teens, but we can control how we communicate. The way we communicate reveals what we value and how we value it. I longed to connect...

How to Save a Marriage

So, you’re an empath married to a guy that treats you like a queen – most of the time. But those times he’s angry? You question if you’re more like your mother than you thought. You worry that his behavior is going to hurt your kids and that you’re being irresponsible...


When I have a chance to actually discuss the topic with clients, it is very simple to explain my view of spirituality, understand my clients’ perspective, and come to a common ground semantically (and often philosophically). I notice I regularly attract people who...

Helping Your Kids During Coronavirus Social Distancing

Dear Brave Ones: Of course, we’re scared. That means it’s the time to be gentle and compassionate with ourselves and others. Can you imagine how scared our kids are? Their routines have been disrupted and they miss their teachers and friends. They have less control...

Out of the race

From the moment we are born, we are part of a race we never wanted to be in, we are measured by milestones and compared endlessly with any peers we share our life with. We are numbers in charts and checkmarks in lists of accomplishments, in other words, we are what we...

Mindful Parenting Through the Everyday Stresses

In the fast paced world of parenting where decisions are made in between spilled cereal, constant questioning and smartphone apps, it is no wonder the word mindfulness is becoming as necessary in a parent’s vocabulary as the word nap-time. And yet, for many,...

What our children ask of us

Our children ask so little really. Listen to my discoveries and ideas. Look through my eyes to understand my world. Feel my love, joy, frustration, pain. Hold my hand, my heart and me close. Be careful with me and understand me. I may feel off sometimes, when the...

Elf on the shelf, Magic of well-behaved kids?

I was already familiar with conscious parenting when the Elf on the Shelf became popular a few years ago, I found out about it when my kids were toddlers and I heard stories about him moving every night and being a fun addition during Christmas time. I was excited to...

Can you see that the opposite of what you are thinking might also be true?  As strange as this might sound, this practice of questioning my thoughts has been a game changer. Believing our thoughts is what causes us pain. It’s liberating to understand that my stressful thoughts aren’t even true. In fact, our thoughts are just thoughts, like clouds in the sky, passing by. Most aren’t true. The positive thoughts don’t cause us pain though, so we don’t really need to work with them. Our stressful thoughts though, they are another story.

Byron Katie developed a process to transform our thinking called The Work which is made up of four questions.  It goes like this. Take any thought you are having that is bothering you, for example:  “He is so critical of me.”

Question no. 1: Can you absolutely know that its true?  This is a yes or no question. In this case, “He is so critical of me”, my answer would be no, as I have to admit that I don’t really know what he thinks of me, and he certainly isn’t always critical of me.

Question no 2: How do you react when you believe that thought?  I also like to notice what happens in my body, when I think the thought, “He is being so critical of me”. I notice that I feel constriction in my chest, and my lower belly gets heavy and my breathing is shallow.  When I am with this person, I want to hide–I become small and quiet.  And we just notice these sensations and how we show up in the world when we think this thought.

Question no. 3 is: Who would you be without this thought?  I would feel light, expansive and feel a sense of energy pulsing in my arms.

Question no. 4 is the heart of the work–now we turn the thought around, and we find examples of how each of these turnarounds are also true. For example, the turn around might be: I am so critical of myself.  Or: He is so critical of himself.  Or: I am so critical of him. And I find an example of how each of these are true.  For me the one that resonates the most (and often there is one) is this idea that I am so critical of myself.  And I feel a huge release as I see this.

And wow, every time I work with a thought I find a renewed sense of lightness, hope, joy, and ease, This process of inquiry is not necessarily a quick fix, ultimately it requires us to come into a new way of thinking, where we realize that life is always happening for us. It encourages us to move towards our pain and discomfort with inquiry and love. Please try it, and see what happens for you. To download a worksheet with these questions, go to Byron Katie’s website: #innerwork #questionyourthinking #healing #innerpeace #lovingwhatis #freedomisyourbirthright

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