Updates on The Family Alchemists

Hi Friends, When I created The Family Alchemists in 2018, I had a really big vision and mission of connecting people to the resources they need to grow. I have so many amazing professionals in the Conscious Parenting space as friends and was determined to help them...

How Recovery Principles Pave the Way to Conscious Parenting

Applying the 12 steps to my parenting helped me practice boundaries, communicate with integrity and ultimately BE loving and tolerant.

Conscious Communication Skills

In times of great social change, we look for the things we can control. We may not be able to predict the future for ourselves or our teens, but we can control how we communicate. The way we communicate reveals what we value and how we value it. I longed to connect...

How to Save a Marriage

So, you’re an empath married to a guy that treats you like a queen – most of the time. But those times he’s angry? You question if you’re more like your mother than you thought. You worry that his behavior is going to hurt your kids and that you’re being irresponsible...


When I have a chance to actually discuss the topic with clients, it is very simple to explain my view of spirituality, understand my clients’ perspective, and come to a common ground semantically (and often philosophically). I notice I regularly attract people who...

Helping Your Kids During Coronavirus Social Distancing

Dear Brave Ones: Of course, we’re scared. That means it’s the time to be gentle and compassionate with ourselves and others. Can you imagine how scared our kids are? Their routines have been disrupted and they miss their teachers and friends. They have less control...

Out of the race

From the moment we are born, we are part of a race we never wanted to be in, we are measured by milestones and compared endlessly with any peers we share our life with. We are numbers in charts and checkmarks in lists of accomplishments, in other words, we are what we...

Mindful Parenting Through the Everyday Stresses

In the fast paced world of parenting where decisions are made in between spilled cereal, constant questioning and smartphone apps, it is no wonder the word mindfulness is becoming as necessary in a parent’s vocabulary as the word nap-time. And yet, for many,...

What our children ask of us

Our children ask so little really. Listen to my discoveries and ideas. Look through my eyes to understand my world. Feel my love, joy, frustration, pain. Hold my hand, my heart and me close. Be careful with me and understand me. I may feel off sometimes, when the...

Elf on the shelf, Magic of well-behaved kids?

I was already familiar with conscious parenting when the Elf on the Shelf became popular a few years ago, I found out about it when my kids were toddlers and I heard stories about him moving every night and being a fun addition during Christmas time. I was excited to...

If we were able to stop for a moment before we automatically shame our kids when they are misbehaving, and if we were able to think before we spoke or acted, most times we would change our reaction for a better response. Our conditioning takes the wheel every time we get triggered and if we are not aware we end up doing what was done to us and what we learned from others.

When I ask parents, Wouldn’t you love to raise your children based on values you have decided for your own family? Wouldn’t you love to have a relationship with your kids based on nurturing and intentional interactions?, I get a resounding YES. They have not chosen consciously to yell, threat, shame or spank their kids. This approach to parenting is the automatic response to the pain and brokenness they carry within and that unconsciously comes out when their loved ones trigger them.

We shame others because that’s what was done to us and we didn’t learn another way, we felt worthless for not being good enough and now when our kids don’t measure up to the image we have of them we repeat the cycle and our kids learn worthlessness because they will never measure up to the high standards we have for the child of our fantasies. The child in front of us is calling us to look within and heal and realize our inherent worth, it is up to us to pass down the pain or to end it with us and end the cycle.

If you are tired of feeling triggered and unable to manage your inner state before reacting to what your child is saying or doing, it is time to reach out to me or one of our amazing coaches here at The Family Alchemists. We will guide you on this path of Conscious Parenting and you will feel empowered to parent your child without the baggage of your childhood.

-Isabel Stafford, Family Alchemist™

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