Understanding that other people’s actions are a reflection of themselves is very difficult when we are still mostly operating from the unconscious because we take it personally. What happens is that since our identity as kids was formed based on what we were told, how we were treated, and the kind of relationship we had with our main caregivers, we learned that our worthiness or worthlessness comes from external validation. So, as adults, the actions or words from others still affect us if we have not done any kind of inner work to shift our beliefs and understand that we are inherently worthy, regardless of what anyone might say.
When we are aware, we still get triggered but instead of looking at what the other person is doing or saying as a measure of our worth, we see it as a reflection of their own inner state and own inner wounds. And our triggers help us to go within and examine our own wounds and work on our healing.
– Isabel Stafford, Family Alchemist
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I support you with the hardest job of all, the raising of your precious children. I help you find joy, peace and ease dealing with your family challenges. I teach you to connect instead of divide by parenting through love. I work with parents who are committed to turning their family dynamic around, to bringing more peace to their homes and cooperation from their kids. In other words, I teach them how to stop yelling and punishing and how to parent through empathy and connection. Parents know when their approach is not working and when they reach out, I meet them right where they are, I offer them a judgment-free and confidential relationship, I guide them through their struggles, celebrate their successes and support them in their setbacks. After working with me you will feel confident about the best way to raise your children, you will feel a sense of peace and regain your joy knowing that every member of your family feels loved and valued, they are heard and they matter. You will be the parent you always wanted to be in the midst of any circumstance. I am a mother of three boys and I went from being the perfect parent in my fantasies to a “monster mom” in reality and in a matter of a couple of years after I had my first child. My world crumbled. It was chaos. And then I went to being a confident mom that gained her joy back thanks to a deep dive into conscious parenting, a long journey of inner work still to this moment and staying committed to being true to myself.
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