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Hi Friends, When I created The Family Alchemists in 2018, I had a really big vision and mission of connecting people to the resources they need to grow. I have so many amazing professionals in the Conscious Parenting space as friends and was determined to help them...

How Recovery Principles Pave the Way to Conscious Parenting

Applying the 12 steps to my parenting helped me practice boundaries, communicate with integrity and ultimately BE loving and tolerant.

Conscious Communication Skills

In times of great social change, we look for the things we can control. We may not be able to predict the future for ourselves or our teens, but we can control how we communicate. The way we communicate reveals what we value and how we value it. I longed to connect...

How to Save a Marriage

So, you’re an empath married to a guy that treats you like a queen – most of the time. But those times he’s angry? You question if you’re more like your mother than you thought. You worry that his behavior is going to hurt your kids and that you’re being irresponsible...

WHAT DOES SPIRITUALITY MEAN TO YOU?

When I have a chance to actually discuss the topic with clients, it is very simple to explain my view of spirituality, understand my clients’ perspective, and come to a common ground semantically (and often philosophically). I notice I regularly attract people who...

Helping Your Kids During Coronavirus Social Distancing

Dear Brave Ones: Of course, we’re scared. That means it’s the time to be gentle and compassionate with ourselves and others. Can you imagine how scared our kids are? Their routines have been disrupted and they miss their teachers and friends. They have less control...

Out of the race

From the moment we are born, we are part of a race we never wanted to be in, we are measured by milestones and compared endlessly with any peers we share our life with. We are numbers in charts and checkmarks in lists of accomplishments, in other words, we are what we...

Mindful Parenting Through the Everyday Stresses

In the fast paced world of parenting where decisions are made in between spilled cereal, constant questioning and smartphone apps, it is no wonder the word mindfulness is becoming as necessary in a parent’s vocabulary as the word nap-time. And yet, for many,...

What our children ask of us

Our children ask so little really. Listen to my discoveries and ideas. Look through my eyes to understand my world. Feel my love, joy, frustration, pain. Hold my hand, my heart and me close. Be careful with me and understand me. I may feel off sometimes, when the...

Elf on the shelf, Magic of well-behaved kids?

I was already familiar with conscious parenting when the Elf on the Shelf became popular a few years ago, I found out about it when my kids were toddlers and I heard stories about him moving every night and being a fun addition during Christmas time. I was excited to...

Our nervous system is constantly, and subconsciously, scanning our environment for safety.  We are simply designed this way, we are animals, after all. If we hear any sudden, loud noise in our environment, chances are your body will start moving even before your mind registers what is happening. Stephen Porges calls this process neuroception, and it occurs reflexively, without our awareness.

One way we can soothe our nervous system is to use a quick and easy tool called orienting.  It’s simple, and yet powerful. To orient, we simply use our eyes to really see everything around us, that is let the pupils take in the colors, shapes, and sights. Move your head slowly, and look all around you, up, down, front, and back.

When you have taken in everything, let your eyes come to rest on something that is pleasant to look at. It doesn’t have to be something necessarily beautiful, just pleasing to your eyes in that moment. When you find it, let your eyes rest there. And then notice what sensations you can notice in your body. How do you know in your body that this is pleasing for you to look at?  For example, if I let me eyes come to rest on my coffee mug, I notice the yellow and white zigzag shape that seems cheery and bright, and I might notice a sense of softening of my belly, a deepening of my breath, and my shoulders loosening down my back. And just for a moment, let yourself take in these pleasant physical sensations.

And that’s it, in one minute, I have let my nervous system orient, reset, and come back to a place of rest-and-digest, in other words this technique allows the parasympathetic nervous system to come back online,  Try experimenting with this tool at moments when you are feeling relaxed, as well as when you are feeling stressed, spacey, tired, etc, and simply notice your experience. It is possible to soothe your nervous system, and I invite you to try it!  #nervoussystem #somaticexperiencing #drstephenporges #traumaresponsive #listentoyourbody #socialengagementsystem #stressrelease  .

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