When a belief or thought that doesn’t feel good pops into our heads throughout the day, if it’s not dealt with, it can start a chattering cycle which grows like a snowball… building and building, thought after thought.
So, these words which were recently passed on to me, is a wonderful tool to find balance.
Here’s how to use them…
First… RECOGNIZE the thought. Acknowledge it. Face it.
Then… REBUKE the thought… this can be as simple as telling the thought “I see you and you don’t feel how I want to feel.”
Next… RELEASE… with a deep breath release the thought, allowing it to drift away, clearing any ties you have with it.
And lastly… REPLACE. You can’t think two thoughts at the same time. You can replace a negative thought with a positive one, such as something you are grateful for. You can replace it with the exact opposite to what the negative chatter was trying to suggest… just replace the thought with something that feels better.
What do you think? Have you ever heard of these 4 R’s before?
I’d love to hear your thoughts.
– Christina Fletcher, Family Alchemist
Christina Fletcher is a Spiritually Aware Parent Coach and Energy Healer who specializes in helping parents become heart centered and aligned to their highest vision of their parenting and of themselves. Through her background and training in religious and self development studies, as well as spirituality and conscious parenting, Christina helps parents dive past the “shoulds” created from their upbringing and society, and release beliefs that hold them back to create authentic, connected relationships with their children, and themselves. Using mindset techniques, practical spiritual tools such as simple meditation, the law of attraction and positive focus, as well as her training and gifts as an energy healer, Christina gives space for a mom or dad to drop into the feeling of satisfaction, alignment and relief, so they can tune in to what their children truly need and work from a centered perspective. She gives practical and spiritual advice on how to tune into a child’s perspective as well as concrete tools to pass on self awareness and mindful living to children as young as 3, so authenticity, emotional awareness, communication and connection can be the foundation for the whole family. Christina is a homeschooling mom of 2 daughters, (ages 16 and 15) and a 9 year old son. She is happily married to her husband Jeff. When their girls were born 10 months apart, Christina parented as she thought she “should”. Scheduled feeds, nights of pacing the floor with crying babies, and getting mad as they got older, she knows what it’s like to feel overwhelmed and in tears through those early years. It wasn’t until her girls were 3 and 4 that she decided her happiness mattered and that she wanted to have fun again. The change transformed everything, creating a powerful relationship with her children which is stronger than ever now that they are teens. When she was pregnant with her son, she became passionate about creating a spiritually aware pregnancy, and her connection with her son prior to his birth was crucial through some family tragedy taking place at that time. This later became the topic of her first book. Christina is passionate about helping parents create deep relationships with their children, from birth until fully grown. But she also knows that deep relationships with others can only be formed from a deep relationship with yourself, so through courses, coaching and her writing, she offers tools for the entire family so they can truly become self aware and present as everything they really are.