Updates on The Family Alchemists

Hi Friends, When I created The Family Alchemists in 2018, I had a really big vision and mission of connecting people to the resources they need to grow. I have so many amazing professionals in the Conscious Parenting space as friends and was determined to help them...

How Recovery Principles Pave the Way to Conscious Parenting

Applying the 12 steps to my parenting helped me practice boundaries, communicate with integrity and ultimately BE loving and tolerant.

Conscious Communication Skills

In times of great social change, we look for the things we can control. We may not be able to predict the future for ourselves or our teens, but we can control how we communicate. The way we communicate reveals what we value and how we value it. I longed to connect...

How to Save a Marriage

So, you’re an empath married to a guy that treats you like a queen – most of the time. But those times he’s angry? You question if you’re more like your mother than you thought. You worry that his behavior is going to hurt your kids and that you’re being irresponsible...


When I have a chance to actually discuss the topic with clients, it is very simple to explain my view of spirituality, understand my clients’ perspective, and come to a common ground semantically (and often philosophically). I notice I regularly attract people who...

Helping Your Kids During Coronavirus Social Distancing

Dear Brave Ones: Of course, we’re scared. That means it’s the time to be gentle and compassionate with ourselves and others. Can you imagine how scared our kids are? Their routines have been disrupted and they miss their teachers and friends. They have less control...

Out of the race

From the moment we are born, we are part of a race we never wanted to be in, we are measured by milestones and compared endlessly with any peers we share our life with. We are numbers in charts and checkmarks in lists of accomplishments, in other words, we are what we...

Mindful Parenting Through the Everyday Stresses

In the fast paced world of parenting where decisions are made in between spilled cereal, constant questioning and smartphone apps, it is no wonder the word mindfulness is becoming as necessary in a parent’s vocabulary as the word nap-time. And yet, for many,...

What our children ask of us

Our children ask so little really. Listen to my discoveries and ideas. Look through my eyes to understand my world. Feel my love, joy, frustration, pain. Hold my hand, my heart and me close. Be careful with me and understand me. I may feel off sometimes, when the...

Elf on the shelf, Magic of well-behaved kids?

I was already familiar with conscious parenting when the Elf on the Shelf became popular a few years ago, I found out about it when my kids were toddlers and I heard stories about him moving every night and being a fun addition during Christmas time. I was excited to...

Who are you beneath the shoulds?
Beneath the Have-to’s, Must do’s, To-do’s or Must have’s?

Funny how the world gets in your head isn’t it?

I figure there are 3 types of shoulds, and only one which is a true calling.
1) You have the social shoulds. Those pesky things we feel pressured to complete because society implies we need to. The ones that when you go out, you might feel insecure or sheepish in case you aren’t fitting in.

2) There’s the Family shoulds. The beliefs and have to’s that were given to you as a child. The ones that you felt guilty when you didn’t fulfill, the ones that had a line drawn down the middle and was either right or wrong… and often you were in the wrong.

3) Your inner should. But let’s not call that a should… rather this is your calling.This one, you know from your inner depths. This one is authentic and deeply whole. This one… you follow.

Feel uncomfortable in your body, so you tell yourself you “should” lose weight? Ask yourself if its a calling, or if you just need to lighten your mood. Feel like your children “should” be reading by now, or “should” clean their room, ask yourself if your inner being is suggesting that, or if its what’s coming from everywhere and nowhere around you. Feel like you don’t know if you can handle a full family dinner, but you “should” see everyone over the holidays. Tune within and ask your heart “what can I manage” and arrange a holiday dessert or an excuse to leave early.

Your truth, your heart and who you are beneath the shoulds, matters. Be true to You and allow love to lead the way. – Christina Fletcher, Family Alchemist.

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