The word discipline is used interchangeably with punishment in traditional parenting, every time children don’t comply with an expected behavior they are “told” what they did wrong and are given a punishment. They are not taught how to problem-solve or taught any skills to help them do better next time. Then, what they really learn with this approach is to avoid getting in trouble because they fear the punishment and also to hide and lie when they have made a mistake or have misbehaved.
Conscious parenting brings back the original meaning of discipline, to teach. How? Through connection. When children are misbehaving, the parent understands that connection needs to happen before correction so children are open to learning a lesson. The parent holds the space for children to deal with their emotions and problem solve afterward.
My invitation for you is to look closely at what is your reaction to your kids’ misbehavior and see what you tend to do first, do you manage the behavior or connect with your child?
-Isabel Stafford, Family Alchemist™
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I support you with the hardest job of all, the raising of your precious children. I help you find joy, peace and ease dealing with your family challenges. I teach you to connect instead of divide by parenting through love. I work with parents who are committed to turning their family dynamic around, to bringing more peace to their homes and cooperation from their kids. In other words, I teach them how to stop yelling and punishing and how to parent through empathy and connection. Parents know when their approach is not working and when they reach out, I meet them right where they are, I offer them a judgment-free and confidential relationship, I guide them through their struggles, celebrate their successes and support them in their setbacks. After working with me you will feel confident about the best way to raise your children, you will feel a sense of peace and regain your joy knowing that every member of your family feels loved and valued, they are heard and they matter. You will be the parent you always wanted to be in the midst of any circumstance. I am a mother of three boys and I went from being the perfect parent in my fantasies to a “monster mom” in reality and in a matter of a couple of years after I had my first child. My world crumbled. It was chaos. And then I went to being a confident mom that gained her joy back thanks to a deep dive into conscious parenting, a long journey of inner work still to this moment and staying committed to being true to myself.
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