Feeling angry around your kids and not sure what to do about it?
You may already know that your emotions are your guidance system. And sometimes they are old emotions triggered by similar situations to your early childhood trauma – so what you perceive as happening could actually just be an old story trying to play into what’s really happening in the present moment. But if that’s not the case, then real anger is your sign that a boundary is being violated. You’ll feel anger if it’s your own boundary being trampled, or the boundaries of those who are vulnerable, like your kids.
Most of the time when I hear moms talk about how they’re getting so angry around their kids and they’re not really sure why, it’s not long before we discover that they are absolutely running on fumes. Here’s the problem: If you’re so busy taking care of everyone else and never take time to take care of you, then you actually aren’t taking care of ANYONE.Â
Taking care of anything requires energy. Our energy. Especially if you do it without presence so it feels like a neverending journey.
Refilling your own tank means intentionally caring for yourself, through everything from adequate sleep to healthy meals to meditation and doing hobbies, crafts, or things you enjoy to refuel.
Imagine for a moment that taking care of others IS that neverending journey through some harsh terrain. Would you be able to tend to your kids if you couldn’t even walk? If your own shoes were worn through? If you had no food or sleep? Nope. They’d be stuck wherever you have to stop.
So back to the anger you might feel around your kids, especially toward the end of your day. After giving, giving, and giving all day your energy tank is empty. So anything, even a request only for your attention, feels like they are trying to take for an empty cup. Your body goes, OH CRAP, we got nothing left to give! Shut her down! And then it floods with the energy at the frequency of anger. Your body is BEGGING you to do something for yourself in that moment, IF ONLY it means you can quiet your brain and just be present to your child. Yep, every thought takes up energy, so the more your brain is churning out an endless supply of anxious thoughts, the faster your cup is depleted.
Read more about how you can quickly refuel with meditation.
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