NEW

Updates on The Family Alchemists

Hi Friends, When I created The Family Alchemists in 2018, I had a really big vision and mission of connecting people to the resources they need to grow. I have so many amazing professionals in the Conscious Parenting space as friends and was determined to help them...

How Recovery Principles Pave the Way to Conscious Parenting

Applying the 12 steps to my parenting helped me practice boundaries, communicate with integrity and ultimately BE loving and tolerant.

Conscious Communication Skills

In times of great social change, we look for the things we can control. We may not be able to predict the future for ourselves or our teens, but we can control how we communicate. The way we communicate reveals what we value and how we value it. I longed to connect...

How to Save a Marriage

So, you’re an empath married to a guy that treats you like a queen – most of the time. But those times he’s angry? You question if you’re more like your mother than you thought. You worry that his behavior is going to hurt your kids and that you’re being irresponsible...

WHAT DOES SPIRITUALITY MEAN TO YOU?

When I have a chance to actually discuss the topic with clients, it is very simple to explain my view of spirituality, understand my clients’ perspective, and come to a common ground semantically (and often philosophically). I notice I regularly attract people who...

Helping Your Kids During Coronavirus Social Distancing

Dear Brave Ones: Of course, we’re scared. That means it’s the time to be gentle and compassionate with ourselves and others. Can you imagine how scared our kids are? Their routines have been disrupted and they miss their teachers and friends. They have less control...

Out of the race

From the moment we are born, we are part of a race we never wanted to be in, we are measured by milestones and compared endlessly with any peers we share our life with. We are numbers in charts and checkmarks in lists of accomplishments, in other words, we are what we...

Mindful Parenting Through the Everyday Stresses

In the fast paced world of parenting where decisions are made in between spilled cereal, constant questioning and smartphone apps, it is no wonder the word mindfulness is becoming as necessary in a parent’s vocabulary as the word nap-time. And yet, for many,...

What our children ask of us

Our children ask so little really. Listen to my discoveries and ideas. Look through my eyes to understand my world. Feel my love, joy, frustration, pain. Hold my hand, my heart and me close. Be careful with me and understand me. I may feel off sometimes, when the...

Elf on the shelf, Magic of well-behaved kids?

I was already familiar with conscious parenting when the Elf on the Shelf became popular a few years ago, I found out about it when my kids were toddlers and I heard stories about him moving every night and being a fun addition during Christmas time. I was excited to...

Feeling angry around your kids and not sure what to do about it?

You may already know that your emotions are your guidance system. And sometimes they are old emotions triggered by similar situations to your early childhood trauma – so what you perceive as happening could actually just be an old story trying to play into what’s really happening in the present moment. But if that’s not the case, then real anger is your sign that a boundary is being violated. You’ll feel anger if it’s your own boundary being trampled, or the boundaries of those who are vulnerable, like your kids.

Most of the time when I hear moms talk about how they’re getting so angry around their kids and they’re not really sure why, it’s not long before we discover that they are absolutely running on fumes. Here’s the problem: If you’re so busy taking care of everyone else and never take time to take care of you, then you actually aren’t taking care of ANYONE. 

Taking care of anything requires energy. Our energy. Especially if you do it without presence so it feels like a neverending journey.

Refilling your own tank means intentionally caring for yourself, through everything from adequate sleep to healthy meals to meditation and doing hobbies, crafts, or things you enjoy to refuel.

Imagine for a moment that taking care of others IS that neverending journey through some harsh terrain. Would you be able to tend to your kids if you couldn’t even walk? If your own shoes were worn through? If you had no food or sleep? Nope. They’d be stuck wherever you have to stop.

So back to the anger you might feel around your kids, especially toward the end of your day. After giving, giving, and giving all day your energy tank is empty. So anything, even a request only for your attention, feels like they are trying to take for an empty cup. Your body goes, OH CRAP, we got nothing left to give! Shut her down! And then it floods with the energy at the frequency of anger. Your body is BEGGING you to do something for yourself in that moment, IF ONLY it means you can quiet your brain and just be present to your child. Yep, every thought takes up energy, so the more your brain is churning out an endless supply of anxious thoughts, the faster your cup is depleted.

Read more about how you can quickly refuel with meditation.

FREE: How To Finally Get Your Child To Listen And Act By Understanding Their Development And Getting The Best Behavior Out Of Them… Even In The Hour Before Bedtime. Yes, Really.

Your Free Gift is on the way! Please check your inbox.

Pin It on Pinterest

Share This